It’s in times like this that the tears freely flow. You can’t explain why your heartache is this intense and you wish this dark feeling and emptiness would go away, like the wind, but it doesn’t. You have tried everything, from crying to getting angry to sleeping just to avoid all the rush of destructive thoughts, but nothing seems to be working.
If you are going through a breakup, it’s not the end of the world. We admit that it’s always a tough spot to be in and that is why I wrote this article: to let you know that you are not alone and to help you feel good while navigating this tough time.
After reading this article, you will have the tips you need to survive your break and come out stronger. Keep reading for more!
When can you say you are going through a breakup?
Before I even proceed to talk about how to survive a breakup, let’s explore what exactly a breakup is.
It’s very possible that you had an argument with your partner that resulted in harsh words being thrown around and hard feelings seeping, but that is not enough to conclude that you are going through a breakup.
It’s also important to note that breakups don’t always have to be with your romantic partner, a breakup can be with your friend or best friend, a member of your family, or a close co-worker.
A breakup is a separation, so basically it’s when you cut off any relationship with a loved one.
Now that that’s settled, let’s go over to what you can do to survive one.
1. Get Your Body Moving
Studies have shown that exercising can help to lift your mood and increase happiness. When you were with your partner, feel-good hormones were released regularly and that is what made you feel happy all the time.
The reason why you feel sad and depressed after a breakup is because when you had the breakup, those feel-good hormones stopped getting secreted. When you exercise, be it squats, press-ups, or a little jog across the street, your body gets awakened and you will feel better.
2. Talk To Someone About It
I know that a breakup can make you feel like you can’t trust anybody else. It can make you feel isolated, disliked, and small. But times like this are when you are supposed to get someone to confide in. When you speak to someone about your struggles, you’ll notice that the ache in your heart will begin to lighten.
Remember, a problem shared is a problem half solved. Just make sure the person you are talking to isn’t the kind of person that will judge you or say “I told you so”. You need a support system, so go ahead and look among your circle of friends, religious members, or even social media acquaintances.
I know I advised you to talk about it to a friend. But the reality is many people don’t have trusted friends who they can turn to, and even if they do, they feel ashamed to share their burdens. If you’re like one of these people, then you need to journal about your experiences. A journal is more like a diary or a note where you write down your experiences.
Writing has such an amazing effect on the mind and you will find out that after each journaling session, you will feel much better about the whole thing.
It doesn’t matter what religion you practice, talking to God about your problems can soothe your soul. It’s okay to cry while praying. Just go to a quiet place, empty your heart and your thoughts and watch things change.
5. Work On Yourself
A breakup can leave you feeling vulnerable and alone. You might even experience moments where you question yourself and ask questions like “Am I good enough?”, “What did I do wrong?”, “Did I cause this breakup?”. I advise you to stop! Don’t question if it was your fault or if you aren’t a good person. Don’t picture yourself as flawed and destroyed.
You are an amazing human being and you have to believe that you are a good person, even though bad things happen to good people sometimes. During this period, you’ll most likely have enough time on your hands so consider reading books, working on your goals, creating a vision board, listening to podcasts, reading articles that can help you like this one, and so on.
Another powerful tool you can try is affirmations. Stand in front of your mirror and speak positive words to yourself. Say a thing like “I am kind”, “I am good looking”, ”I deserve the best experiences in life”, ”I am attracting better people into my life”, and “I am worthy of true love”.
Speaking these things has proved to be truly profound. A lot of celebrities have even come out to say how deformations worked to heal their spirits and give them a better life.
6. Practice Self-Care
You need to reboot, refresh, and rejuvenate. I know your mind, heart, and body have been through the worst and that is why I recommend that you practice self-care. Self-care doesn’t have to be extravagant, it just means taking care of yourself; physically, spiritually, and emotionally.
You can start by making a cup of soothing tea, listening to calming music, sleeping, lighting candles, getting a massage, visiting a spa, traveling out for a while, getting your hair and nails done, going out for shows, and so on. Whatever makes you feel good about yourself is self-care. I promise it will help you feel much better.
7. Let Go
Bitterness will only eat you up and cause you to go backward in your self-development journey. My final tip for you is to let go. Try your best to forgive whoever hurt you.
You can tell them in person that you have forgiven them or you can decide to make a mental note. It’s okay if it seems difficult at first, give it time because time heals all wounds. The most important thing is to try to associate the person with good thoughts and not bad ones. You will notice a healthy glow once you decide to do this.
I hope you loved this article and you got something from it that will help you come out of this horrid experience bigger and better.
A breakup might be nasty, but believe me when I say it’s not the end. Better days are coming and you’ll look back very soon and laugh about all this because time heals all wounds.
I am sending you love and light now and always. Stay happy!